Three Desires

The Love and Marriage Your Heart Desires 

 
Too often, married couples find themselves growing apart after the honeymoon dies down. They stop feeling like their own desires are seen and honored, begin to resent their spouse’s differing interests, and stop meeting each other’s needs in their quest for happiness.

It shouldn’t be this way, but it happens to many couples—from newlyweds to empty-nesters.

Relationship coach Christa Hardin helps couples to find a way to answer their deepest longings for love while also honoring one another’s hopes in The Three Desires: Reshaping the Connection, Intimacy, and Teamwork in Your Marriage. 
 

Christa explains that people enter romantic relationships hoping to have three primary needs met:

• The self-preservation desire for safety, order, and wellness

• The sexual desire for attracting one another and merging with intimacy

• The social desire for attunement, connection, and purpose 
   

These desires show up differently in each of us, depending on many factors such as one’s Enneagram type or family upbringing. But Christa offers assurance that it’s possible for couples to meet these needs in a balanced, integrative, and meaningful way, bringing a culture of appreciation and fulfillment to their relationship and greater good to the world.